One must ask, what are the â€˜problemsâ€™ caused for those who wait on sex until committed in life compared to those searching for sexual compatibility before committing in life? Statistically, which are the more healthy and integrated (and last) in their relationships today? Iâ€™d venture to say the answer is self evidentâ€¦
There are better arguments in Gwineva, but since this is first posted in the Kolbrin Group, I will ask you your thoughts of the numerous examples, passages, and sayings that the Kolbrin has to say on sex, love, and marriage; why you think it says so, and if after reading these things you will say that sexual compatibility is the problemâ€¦
Try this for oneâ€¦
â€œA woman reserves herself for her husband or she does not, according to her marriage criterion. A woman reserved for marriage is one unlikely to be unfaithful; a woman easily come by before marriage is no less attainable afterwards, for if she says love is the criterion, then she measures by something unstandardised, which may figuratively vary from one inch to a mile. A man declaring his love may have seduction in mind or a lifetime of protective devotion, the marriage proposal determines the difference and establishes the intent.â€ â€“ The Kolbrin, Book of Creation, Chapter 7
Now, it should not be inferred from the above that marriage is the â€˜absoluteâ€™ criterion for sex; simply that it is the general rule, as most people, including newlyweds, have barely the slightest conception of True Love.
Nevertheless, there are those that commit themselves to the â€˜oneâ€™ they know their heart belongs to. These are a rarer sort that have an advanced awareness of Love. This is perhaps of the purest sort, owing to the awareness of their other half in Love and their Destiny with their mate.
But besides this, romantic love is the master of sexuality, certainly not the reverse! For how could two people so committed, caring and entwined not have a sexual compatibility? These days of sexual frivolity is the cause of impotence and Viagra (and this is actually caused by a sexual â€˜incompatibilityâ€™), while in the days of lifelong commitment, youâ€™d commonly see a dozen children per coupleâ€¦ not much incompatibility going on there.
The sexual act is the ultimate physical expression of closeness, togetherness, and union. When this is passed around easily, it cheapens the act, even more so for the person you may eventually commit to. That which is unique and dear is priceless, while that which gets passed around here and there is of lesser value, and that which is given indiscriminately is close to worthless. This is a basic law in economics. And it WILL cause problems for you and your chosen partner down the lineâ€¦ simply witness past and present culture for this.
Love and commitment are the constant. Sexual desire appear in youth and retreat in old age. One whose heart is first concerned with â€˜sexual compatibilityâ€™, will find death and lonesomeness at the eventual failing of libido, but those who have their hearts most concerned with love and commitment will find life even in death, and their sexual act, as it was coveted and prized rather than filthened in the dung heap, was made into a crown adornment, and tool for the strengthening of that connection surviving death.